Friday, January 1, 2010
Getting into the Routine...
Okay, my actual one and only hair appointment at Curltopia. I made the appointment with a stylist. At the time this stylist was the only natural hair stylist that was black in the salon. The stylist talked up a HUGE game, but the delivery was pretty sorry (...too blunt?). I went in with high expectations - of which may have already set me up for disappointment. I originally wanted to blow it out, straighten and then trim it up.
After a talk, I was convinced to remain curly and add some product, sit me under the dryer and then style. After a wash, and a little conditioner (sat under the dryer to get the penetrating effect), I was "trimmed"up. I couldn't really tell a difference, but was HIGHLY PISSED when I went to get is straighted out about two weeks later and the lady told me I need a trim....hadn't I just gotten it trimmed? Could the stylist trim hair while it was curly?
Okay, so it was decided to use missjessies curly pudding...the purple one that smells like a sweet tart - the stylist applied A LOT of the product and sat me under the dryer to set. After one hour and a half I was allowed to leave the dryer. I was excited to see what this long process would produce...sadly, I was disappointed. My hair looked about the same it did everyday...with added grease...and, since so much was used, a constant smell...
Curly Pudding was heavy and just left so much film on my hair that everytime I touched it, my hand returned with a coating of grease. What was the main product in this? Obviously, nothing that actually allows penetration into the hair shaft...to assist in the health of my hair...or did that stylist just use entirely too much product?
So, from that experience, I put miss jessies down...all but their rapid conditioner.
Since going into to curltopia for an actual appointment, which was over a year ago, they have steadily been adding more stylist...from what I can see, mainly females that are actually wearing their hair natural. I might give them another try...but, probably not. HA!
What else...
Wednesday, December 30, 2009
Newly Chopped and Product Use
So, I've already mentioned the products I started off using to care for my natural hair...deva curl no poo shampoo, jane carters nourishing conditioner and I put miss jessies buttercreme down pretty quickly...why was that?
My hair, in general is light and can't really hold up against heavy products. I may have a lot of hair strands, but the strands themselves are thin...I just have a lot of strands which gives the effect of thicker hair...etc., anyway, the miss jessies product appeared to be petroleum based and I always equate petroleum with Vaseline (the stuff your mom used to lather on your face on a cold morning - heck, I do it to my own kids...just shining like a Christmas tree!). The point is...it protects the skin from the harsh elements outside...making like a barrier between the cold and your face...and EVENTUALLY, through the day, some got wiped off and some got absorbed into your skin...same concept with putting a product similar to that on your hair.
Your hair strands, at least what I've always believed, are "dead" - and naturally need a lot of moisture, or rather a good balance between moisture and protein...which is what your hair is anyway.
I digress...the buttercreme, one of my first products with my natural hair, was too heavy and it felt like a "coating" on my hair - not really getting down to the shaft to condition inside and then out. I would stand by this claim months later when I went to my curly hair professional done...curly! Sounds silly...that's because it was. I'll get to that adventure soon...
As I stated, I eventually used the buttercreme on my daughter's hair as I braided it up. She has a similar texture to me, but since I was braiding up for at least 4 days at a time, the heaviness of the product didn't do any harm...but I can tell you, I don't have a lot of faith that it is really providing anyone's hair with much benefit.
...and big plus about the buttercreme/baby buttercreme is it smells good and the scent last...so you better like it if you use it.
SIDEBAR: when I was pregnant with my second child I really hated my hair routine because the smell of the product made me sick! I called the company and asked if they had an unscented version, they did not, so I left the suggestion under "comments" - still no unscented version has been released...but I don't plan on being pregnant ever again...so no worries on my end.
Okay, so the "curl" enhancing product struck out. What now? I basically did a co-wash (a co-worker taught me that term) application of conditioner with my morning shower, rinse, still leaving a little remaining and hop out, light dry and of course a headband (ouchless) and out the door. Quick process, but it didn't enhance my curls at all...but I was getting a great amount of moisture which must of had a hand in the upward...or rather, downward growth of my hair in months to come.
How did I stumble upon my tried & true company...CURLS? I don't really know - ah, yes I do. The lady that cut my hair (my big chop) had a small kit of curl- q's meant for little girls. I purchased the kit (probably about 5 products) for my daughter. In the kit, there was shampoo, conditioner, moisturizer, and...something else I think. At any rate, I didn't like the moisturizer for her hair - it felt and looked like it dried it our rather than the effect the name would suggest. So I stopped using that on her head. The shampoo and conditioner smelled good...and the conditioner was really thick...so if it wasn't giving her hair the conditioning it need, at least it was faking the funk by being thick - and everything smelled pretty good. Not too overpowering.
So, after trying out a few of the Curls products on little mini me, I searched for the product at a local salon - of which I found, but getting into a store with kids is hard and the internet is my best friend...so I searched for the company online. Tada! http://www.curls.biz/ ...here I come. On the site I found a plethora of other products, both for women and kids...and remind me to tell you a little secret about that division.
After reading up on the descriptions of each product and what I was looking for, I choose the heaviest of "cremes" to purchase. The cremes ranged for lightest to heaviest milkshake, something else and whipped cream...and honestly, I think the names are pretty fitting and it gives you a great idea on the consistency of the product if you're not familiar with them.
So, the heavy "whipped cream" arrived in the mail and I took a stab at the application. ...Um, exactly, how was I supposed to do this? I had seen people apply and then use a comb and run it through...I failed at the attempt - my hair just looked frizzy and certainly didn't have the defined curls like I was looking for...another tactic?
Finger styling? I had heard that word, what it exactly meant I don't know, but if anyone ask, that's what I did. At first, I wet my hair in the shower, blot dried it with a towel (really, water streaming down my face) and then applied generous amounts of this (literally looking like whipped creme) product to my hair. I didn't worry about sections - didn't have to. My hair was just that short. I usually applied the product in a "backwards" motion away from my face - to this day I can't stand hair in my face...touching my face...around my face! ...but this really wasn't an issue at this stage in the game.
So, curls whipped creme did a fairly good job and I as I became more skilled in the application, it became easier and easier.
So now my morning routine usually (not everyday) consisted of a co-wash, blot dry and application of whipped creme...and out the door. The down side to the whipped creme, because it is so heavy, is I would leave the house with my hair wet and while it was short, it would still be wet my lunch time. ...and as my hair grew the drying time got longer and longer and longer (remind me to tell you about the purchase of my "diffuser" blow dryer (lol).
Since the curls line had other products, I ordered samples of the moisturize for women and the ...what is it called...can't remember at the moment, but it reminded me of a little, clear gel...and that's pretty much what I think it is.
So, I added these products to my daily routine as well...more products, more drying time needed...who would have guessed right?! I would experiment on taking one product out and seeing if that effected the way my hair behaved...nothing really mattered...and no one, not even I could tell if I had applied all three or just 1 or 2.
Personally, I think you can just get way with the look a - like gel and everything will look pretty much the same. Gosh, wish I could remember that name...AH! Goddess Glaze, I've got a great mind - I usually can mentally find anything I'm looking for...I think it's one of my talents!
The goddess glaze is clear, no scent and it can be worn with or without other products. They consider this a layering product and that's exactly how I used it. Once I had done everything, I would top it off by adding a little/a lot of goddess glaze and then head out. The application of the Goddess Glaze is easier than the whipped creme, because of the light nature of the glaze. Again, I think the name is fitting because you are finishing off your stying regime with a little glaze. Great marketing...although, I doubt many people sit an ponder about such silly things.
So, I did that routine for a while...and as my products ran out, I would drop 30 or 40 bucks everytime I ordered products...which was about every three to four months...now, as my hair got longer...more product needed right? Right...this was getting expensive.
I went into Urbanbella on Saturday - can't believe I actually got away for a few hours (the house always needs something!) and it was BUSY! Urbanbella often as these come and see what we have events...and I just happen to come on that day - lucky me!
The place was packed for small wall to small wall - Urbanbella is so big, if you blink you'd probably miss it...I still drive right past it, although the name of the street still has me puzzled (Wiecua - I think that's it).
At any rate, the walked into Urbanbella, and it must have been November or December because Miss Jessies was having their yearly promotion of "buy one, get one free." People were dropping hundreds buying up all those products. I just wanted someone to make recommendations for my hair type. After I wrangled a "representative" down, we sat down in the trying room, where she doused my face (my hair) with water for a spray bottle and proceeded to try products on my hair - personally I think Urbanbella is sleeping with Miss Jessies because that's the only products the "representative" tried on me. BTW, the representative had great hair...and I asked how to got it like that...it was big and fro like, but it had curls to it and it looked controlled. She stated...it took her hours and a lot of steps...right then I knew I was in for a long difficult road during my natural journey.
Okay, back to the packed out at Urbanbella...she tried about 3 products on my hair...pulling the product through using her fingers only. I couldn't see a difference between one product or another. She did try their stretching creme on me and because of the name, I thought it would reduce the shrinkage I was experiencing and elongate my curls...um, not so much. Although the name implies, it did not deliver - I bought a small 2oz sized to try and was really glad I had not committed to the 8oz size.
...I'll have to stop here, because my eyes are getting heavy and I'm sure this post is long enough already...I'll pick up on my second Urbanbella experience next time.
Tuesday, December 29, 2009
After the Big Chop: Act I
First, after thinking about it, I believe my last relaxer was two weeks before my wedding so the very beginning of November in 2007. I remember wanting my hair straight, but not bone straight for the wedding so my stylist suggested coming in two week prior to try out the hair style and put in touch-up (touching up only the new growth with chemically altering substance to permantely straighten hair).
So, now that that minor detail is out of the way...how did I "do" my natural hair...well, I didn't!
The evening I did the big chop, I headed over to Target and picked up a three pack of ouchless head bands. For some reason, that made me feel a little bit better about the process...can't really speak on how it looked on my head!
I also headed over to curltopia for the very first time to see about getting some products...so now, I was the one in the hot seat knowing little to nothing about how to care for my natural hair.
Prior to doing the big chop, I researched and looked a pictures, etc. I wasn't too familiar with you tube, although that has proven to be a great resource. I kept hearing suggestions for miss jessies, so that's what I tried first. I purchased a sulfate free shampoo - deva curl no poo, miss jessies butter creme (2oz) and jane carter's conditioner. ...grand total right around $50.00! I thought to myself, this is going to be expensive.
Product Review:
1. Deva Curl no poo - I used until I ran it...it was good, but you have to get used to the no suds effect
2. Butter Creme...gets a D- from me. I eventually used it on my little girls hair when I braid it up - I put it down for the baby butter creme which is lighter and not so heavy
3. Jane Carter Conditioner...great!!! I use it still...and actually stopped using it for a while -just because I didn't have any, and saw a difference in my hair (for the worse) - I'm all stocked up now...so I will begin using it again
That night, my sister invited us to dinner. I told her we would come, but not to be shocked because I had just cut all my hair off...Upon my arrival she said I needed to do my makeup and look right, because now, my hair wasn't going to be able to pull that off for me...I don't wear makeup...unless I'm going somewhere or have something to cover up!
She suggested I do some twist...the proper name for that length is coils...I worked on them while I was there. Honestly, I thought I had done a decent job...but looking back, it was pretty bad!
I started to post pictures on facebook (private album of course) to document my hair growth...and my comment was "join me as I pray my hair grows quickly"...I was pretty sad about my hair being gone and thought I had made a bad decision - but, like I said, once you've committed...the only thing you can really do is stick it out...some people last a few months and then perm it again...but, to date (December 2009, I haven't done that route...and I'm not past the point where I would want to)...stay tuned!
Prior to the Big Chop _ Pre-ActI
As I previously mentioned, I did the Big Chop (having all of my relaxed hair - chemically straightened hair, cut) in July of 2008. I can't remember exactly how long it had been since I had put a relaxer in, but I would guess it was around 6months. So, I had natural hair (about an inch I guess) and about 8 inches of relaxed hair.
During my transition (the period of time where you have two -or more, different hair textures on your hair), I wasn't really taking care of my hair...because I didn't know what to do with it. I didn't put in braids or a weave (personally, I don't like weaves...but I've also only worn one once...and it hurt). The main problem I had, but didn't know at the time, was I was breaking my hair off like crazy!!! My weekly washing consisted of me washing my hair with - who knows what shampoo, throwing in a little conditioner, rinsing, and getting out and pulling my hair into a tight ponytail...and then covering it with a bandana. The top would be fine...but the part that was at and past the ponytail holder was TERRIBLE! What did I do...just get the blow-dryer and run in through...many, many, many times. What I didn't know was, I was breaking my hair off something serious. After months of doing this, I realized I had sever breakage in the middle of my head (right where the ponytail gathered)...what was I do to??
I had mentally decided I was going to go natural - just didn't know how I would look with short, natural hair. A few of my husband's friends (none of my own), had gone natural and LOVED! it. Couldn't talk enough about it...I wrestled with the idea and most of the responses I got - from those people that were still using relaxers - was "I didn't want to do that," "your hair will grow out, not down," "maybe you should wear weave until it grows out"...and the best one was from my stylist at the time "Why do you want to do that, you never know what your hair texture will be until it's too late"...classic!
A few comments on my stylist's response to me discussing going natural...
1. I did know "kind of" what hair texture I had. Even with a relaxer, I was able to do the "wash and go" and my hair would be wavy...I loved it...my husband called it the jerry curl.
2. Why did I want to do that...because I tired of paying YOU $60-80!!
My breaking point...or when I decided to go ahead and cut my hair off, was one day at work. I worked with a very social bunch and trusting (apparently!). A lady I worked with was harmlessly teasing me about the condition of my hair...which usually is very well kept and looks pretty nice...the last few months, that had fallen off (and obviously my hair had broken off) - she put her fingers in the center of my scalp and exclaimed "whoa! is it time for a perm?!!!" I was so embarrassed! She was right...but EVERYONE knows that you don't put your hands in a black lady's head...no telling what you're going to find (tracks or a lot of new growth!).
So, after that event...I believe it was the next day, I scheduled an appointment with another stylist to have my relaxed hair cut off. It was an ambitious move...prompted by my embarrassment, but one I had been thinking of for a while.
Now, I will say, my husband was encouraging all along...and he said he wanted me to take a picture asap after I had been to my appointment. I scheduled the appointment before going to work. It maybe took 30 minutes...and just like that, my hair was gone.
To say the least, I was shocked...and thought "oh, what have I done?" There is absolutely no going back after you do the Big Chop...and here I was, in my car...looking at my super short "natural" hair...again..."what have I done?"
I hurried into work...great...forgot about the Thursday morning meeting...plop down in the first available seat...and here the eyes of "OMG" and the verbal comment "OH MY GOSH" right there amongst at least 12 people in a meeting....my embarrassment continued.
The next day, I went and got a few "ouchless" head bands...and that made me feel a little bit better...my husband got the picture he wanted...but he didn't have so many comments to make.
How We Began...
Last night I headed over to curltopia (after going to urbanbella and the product I was looking for was sold out - MissJessies: Rapid Recovery Deep Conditioner). I was standing there waiting for the receptionist to be done speaking with a customer. As I stood, I listened to the conversation.
The receptionist was speaking to a young woman, probably in her late twenties on the products she should be using for her natural hair. To me, the woman's hair length suggested that she had been natural for at least 6 months - but it did look dry and her 4a/b hair texture could have used some products to control her naturally tightly curled hair (VERY similar to my own).
I listened as the customer stated she washed her hair, EVERYDAY!!! I was shocked - but I kept a very calm face and continued to listen. After the receptionist went back and forth with the customer to make sure she was actually using shampoo on her hair every morning, she went one to explain that shampooing should only be done every 7 to 10 days (mentally, I'm shaking my head in agreement). She told the customer that she could wet it and add some conditioner daily to get that "re-curl" effect that I know she was aiming for.
The receptionist turned to me at that point and asked if I had an appointment or need products. I responded with products and she asked if I knew what I wanted and I certainly did. Miss Jessies always does a BOGO free at the end of the year and I had been stretching my Rapid Treatment to last until this time. I was excited to be spending $48.00 to get TWO 8oz sized containers of this stuff...I do like it, but it's the ONLY product from Miss Jessies (that I've tried) that I continue to use.
Long story short...I purchased my products and hesitated as the young lady and two of her friends pondered over what products she should get. I was close to making my own suggestions to her, but thought, the receptionist did a good job, shes in good hands...now, for a little back ground on the receptionist....
To be blunt...she's white, with wavy blond hair. Not exactly the person that you want to look at and get advise from about your natural hair - expecially if you're just starting out. Now, I'm not discrediting the receptionist, because, like I said - she knew what she was talking about.
It dawned on my a few months ago that all of these hair care lines (curls, missjessies, kinky-curly, jane carter), are founded and owned by people that don't have hair like me. So...just how are they going to know what "I" need?
...and thus, I have decided to start a blog (of which I hope people search for, find and comment on) about my natural hair journey ...although, to date it has been 1 year, 5 months and some change since I did the BIG CHOP (lol).
I want to share with all of you the experiences I have had with my hair journey...the ups and the downs (plenty)...and the lessons I learn...the problems I've run into, etc.
Where to begin....from the start I guess...ActI.


